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Not turning into a Bridezilla

Good Evening Girls & Gals

I came across this article as I was trying to prepare myself as a supplier for the upcoming wedding season

Click here to read Elaine’s article in full … Not Turning into a Bridezilla

I really do understand the stress that family & friends can place on someone that is preparing for their upcoming nuptials but there is no need to loose it. Every one is on your side and they really do want you to have the most special day.

There are 11 different suggestions Elaine Chaney of Tough Love. To me the most important one is Number 11, what do you think

Back in the day, a wedding was basically an arrangement between families.  You, a bag of potatoes and an unruly goat, got traded off to a dude from some other family and bam! You were married.

Weddings are now more of a party and  and while it’s a lot less likely to see a unruly goat at a wedding,

The chances of witnessing a Bridezilla is now more common than ever because the stress of planning “THE PERFECT DAY” can turn any blushing bride into a crazed animal.

If you’re getting married soon, here are a few tips to help you avoid turning into a Bridezilla.

1. REMEMBER IT’S YOUR DAY.

And not anyone else’s. One of the biggest mistakes brides make is thinking that since the wedding is their top priority, it should be everyone else’s. as well.

The people you love cannot put their entire life on pause for your big day, and you shouldn’t expect them to.

There’s a reason why those stock pictures of crazy brides on Google are so terrifyingly funny – it’s because we’ve all known or heard of a bride losing their crap over centrepieces.
This is why it’s a good idea to hire a wedding planner and relinquish most of the planning duties to them so you can avoid making your bridesmaid cry when you yell at her for walking down the aisle like a penguin.
A Bridezilla starts as a small seed of stress that grows out of control.
A huge contributing factor to wedding stress is money. Stay within your budget. Remember that you’re marrying someone, not taping an episode of Keeping up with the Kardashians.

4. TAKE A BREAK.

The to-do list goes on and on when you’re planning a wedding. It stops being fun and starts becoming a job, and you start getting cranky about and taking out on everyone else.
Scheduling some time off to do ANYTHING that’s not wedding-related is a great way to avoid getting a case of the Bridezillas.

5. REMEMBER WHY YOU’RE HAVING A WEDDING.

Remind yourself that the whole point of the wedding is for you and your families to celebrate your love for each other. Not to have doves place the ring on your finger just so, while your guests Instagram the moment.

6. BE FLEXIBLE AND WILLING TO ADAPT.

This goes back to embracing the fact that your wedding is not everyone’s top priority.

Everyone has their own life and their own schedules. Keep this in mind when planning your events. Your best bet to avoid any headaches is to have a replacement person waiting in the wings in case any of your bridesmaids or groomsmen can’t fulfill their obligations.

7. DON’T HAVE AN EVENT OVERLOAD.

Another way to avoid a potential freak out is to keep the pre-wedding events to a minimum.  You don’t have to have an engagement party, a bridal party, a bachelorette party, a wedding party party, and an after party party. Organising too much increases everyones stress level.

8. KNOW THAT IT WON’T BE PERFECT.

Something is going to go wrong. Just own it. No-one is going to know what is right & what is wrong. So when  there inevitable hiccup comes during your big day, you can just let it roll off your back.  And Remember to Laugh.

9. VENT IN A HEALTHY WAY.

Venting is a must when it comes to planning a wedding.  Alleviate some of your stress and the pressure of planning by talking to your fiance, your mom, or your girlfriends about what’s troubling you, instead of bottling it all up.

No-one wants the wrath of the Bridezilla, it makes everything very SAD

10. BE GRATEFUL TO YOUR WEDDING PARTY.

They’re there for you. So make sure that, despite how stressed you are, you express your gratefulness for their time and their love.  Don’t make them regret supporting you by being bratty and entitled.

11. DECIDE TO HAVE FUN.

When you open your eyes on the morning of your big day, decide right then and there that you’re going to have fun, no matter what.

No matter if the ring bearer pukes in the middle of the ceremony or the cake looks like the leaning tower of Pisa. Be in the moment and enjoy the one of the most important days of your life.

Remember exactly how you felt. Make sure you both decide to make it a day you can both look back on with fondness.